The Secrets To A New Year's Resolution That Lasts + My Personal Goals

I’m sure we have all been here time and time again, it comes to the end of the year and you begin thinking about all that you have accomplished and also a few things that have managed to slip by. This time of year is known for setting new intentions and resolutions but close to 95% of all resolutions are already out the window by the end of January! How crazy is that?

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The reason being that most people set goals or resolutions that aren’t realistic, are specific enough and simply focus on the end goal instead of the action steps needed to actually get there. Thankfully this can be easily corrected and you CAN successfully accomplish your New Years resolutions this year. I see a few common mistakes again and again when talking with clients, they want to accomplish a years worth of goals within 1-2 months and end up being frustrated after minimal results happen, no one wants to feel overwhelmed, nervous and unhopeful going into a new resolution or intension, I say we flip that and focus on small sustainable steps that create a plan of action for longterm success.

Below are some of my top tips for staying on track with your resolutions or intensions this year.

  1. Make your goals SMART! This isn’t a new concept but one that has proven time and time again to always set you up for the most success. I began practicing this way of setting goals back when I was studying to become a personal trainer. We had to help our clients create a goal that was broken down enough and easy to stick to, hence where SMART goals come in. SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Action Oriented, Realistic and Timely. What you want to do is create a goal that you can break down into smaller steps so that you don’t end up overwhelmed and frustrated but rather have a specific schedule to follow along with. An example of this would be weight loss, instead of saying you want to lose weight, try instead saying “I would like to lose 2lbs per week for 1 month by going to the gym 4 times per week and adding in more vegetables with each meal. This gives you a schedule to follow, a number to measure, and action steps to get there. The more specific you get the better, think about how that goal will make you feel, what types of workouts you want to do and even call on an accountability buddy to keep you consistent. These types of goals can work with anything and are proven to help with success and commitment. I like to write down my goals and physically check them off one by one as I go along, there is just something so satisfying with checking off a goal or step towards your goal. Be creative with this, write out your monthly intensions, create a vision board or do something else creative that you personally love.

  2. Don’t make a New Years resolution just for the sake of making a resolution, if new year’s resolutions aren’t your cup of tea don’t make them! There are a lot of different ways of having and successfully achieving goals. New Years Resolution’s tend to bring up feelings of stress, overwhelm, comparison and judgment for many which won’t help you get into a good head space for the new year. Instead, simply focus on creating a different way of setting or tracking goals such as monthly intensions that you would personally love to work on or create a daily habit tracker as a way of ticking off your daily to-do list or set of actionable goals. Some people prefer short term goals and that’s completely fine, as long as it works for you that’s what is important.

  3. Don’t compare your step 1 to someone else’s step 10. It is SO EASY to get trapped in the comparison game. With social media nowadays, it’s easy to forget that it’s showing off a highlight reel of everyone’s lives. No one’s life is perfect, we all struggle and we are all at a different point in our OWN JOURNEY. It’s crucial to remember that you are exactly where you need to be at this point of your life, if your business is just starting up, be proud of that, don’t compare it to your friends business that has successfully been growing for 5 years. If you find yourself comparing your body to that of an athlete, unfollow them and move on. If you aren’t taking their inspiration as INSPIRATION then unfollow and move on, you need to be able to be YOUR OWN inspiration and be PROUD of where you are at in your life journey, own it.

  4. Separate your goals Into categories, this may be my type-A personality coming through but having categories and lists helps me stay organized and tracking forward with my action steps. For example, I personally divide my goals into Health, Fitness, Business and Life Goals. That way I am able to break my goals down even further which provides more commitment and more success in the long run. When I feel unorganized with my thoughts, goals never seem to go as planned but by breaking them down it helps me set up a daily action plan for each area to make sure I am staying consistent.

  5. Do something to keep you accountable! Accountability is KEY when it comes to making your goals a reality. This could be many things, having a friend to go to the gym with, sharing your goals with supportive family, writing down a list of daily actions, using your phone reminders to drink more water, creating a health and fitness instagram account, meeting likeminded people to share your goals with and keep you inspired, start a blog to share your journey with others, give yourself a gift after achieving certain milestones of your goal. Have fun with this one.

  6. BOSS UP! I recently hopped on the Peloton train and purchased one of their at home bikes that come with access to live and on demand spin classes everyday. The instructors are world class and it has been one of the best investments of my life so far. The reason I am mentioning this is because one of my favourite instructors, Ally Love has a philosophy of bossing up that really hit home with me. There are always going to be days or weeks where we don’t want to do the work, where we don’t want to go train in the morning, where it would be SO much easier to stop in for takeout or push projects aside but the difference between people who achieve success and those who don’t are the ones who do the work and do it consistently. You set the standard of your own life, your daily actions are what create your reality so why wouldn’t you want to give it your all. It’s time you finally stand up for yourself and create the life you want.

  7. Don’t strive for perfection, being that I am a perfectionist at heart, this is something that proved to be both a blessing and a curse. I’m here to tell you there is no such thing as perfection so why are we all so obsessed with achieving it? Perfection leads to unhealthy obsession and unrealistic expectations in my opinion, yes its good to dream and so important to believe that you are capable of anything but there is a point where it gets pushed too far. Remember that life is about balance, not about having the perfect diet, or the perfect workout routine. I like to strive for the 80/20 lifestyle. 80% of my time is spent on activities that nourish my body and create a healthy lifestyle while 20% of my time is spent on nourishing my soul with good food and time spent doing things I love and never have to stress over. Creating unrealistic health goals and then feeling guilty for not sticking to them 100% ends up just causing more stress in the long run so embrace health as a longterm lifestyle and don’t push yourself too hard.

  8. Be grateful this year. Gratitude is such a powerful tool, it has the ability to change your brain chemistry and create a more positive, grateful mind and life for you. I say it’s time to ditch the mindset of feeling like we are lacking something or spending our time playing the victim and instead be so grateful for this beautiful life we all get to be apart of. Start small, every single morning or evening before you go to bed, write down 3-5 things you are grateful for and place it in a jar beside your bed, do this for an entire year and you will have filled the jar with 365 things to be grateful and happy for in your life. This will automatically change the way you think, you will feel instantly happier and you will begin to appreciate the small things in life.

  9. Exercise! Yes even if fitness or health isn’t part of your New Years goals, try including physical activity of some sort into your life this year, here’s why…exercise has the power to lift your mood, help create more focus throughout your day, boost your metabolism (especially after weight training), pump your lymphatic system which helps your body naturally detox through sweat, boosts your energy and overall just makes you a better, stronger, healthier person. Who doesn’t want that? Exercise doesn’t have to be going to the gym, it’s important to find something you love to do everyday, this could be going for a walk, run, bike ride, dancing in your kitchen, taking the stairs, doing some yoga, trying out a workout app or visiting some local fitness studios in your town for something new.

  10. Realize that YOU are the only one that is going to make a change in your life. You can hire all of the health coaches, personal trainers, life coaches or healers that you want but ultimately It’s YOU and only YOU that has to put in the work and show up for yourself. Every single obstacle in your life was created to make you stronger and bring you to the next level, it’s up to you to see that as either a step forewords or backwards. Be proud of where you are at and realize that you are worthy of being unbelievably happy, successful and thriving, it’s a CHOICE you have to make for yourself. Love yourself enough to show up and be your best every single day and the rest will follow.

  11. Use I AM statements. I absolutely LOVE this concept of goal setting. This ties into the law of attraction and manifestation. Saying a goal out loud as if it already is true tricks your brain into actually believing it with consistency. Instead of saying I want to lose 10 pounds, write an affirmation saying, I am feeling so energized after losing 10 pounds, I am the healthiest I have ever been. Say it daily and include actions steps on how you are going to get there, think about how these statements make you feel everyday when you say them. These have helped sky rocket my self belief!

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I hope that the tips above help you create an action plan into your best self in 2019, personally I have quite a few goals this year both big and small so I thought I would share them with you as a way to keep myself accountable on this journey.

  • HEALTH- last year was all about hormonal balance for me and tweaking my diet around to find more balance and thankfully I was able to achieve this (more posts to come about this topic) so my goal is to maintain that balance with my diet. I will continue to create more plant based whole food recipes to share with you all and also expand the variety of foods I eat. Lastly I will drink more water everyday.

  • FITNESS- I will work on building strength and staying consistent with it, alongside more stretching and focus on recovery in between workouts. I will bring more variation into my fitness routine to switch it up.

  • Business- By April this year I will expand my online business and help 10 passionate, inspired ladies create their own online wellness business within Babes In Business, I will help 15 new personal clients become the healthiest version of themselves, I will stay consistent with blogging every Monday, I will continue to work with brands that align with my values on instagram, I will continue to grow my brand and share my passions with you all, I will focus on organization and consistency this year, I will create more projects and content for you all, travel as much as I can with the amazing team of women I work with.

  • LIFESTYLE- I will go to bed earlier so I can focus on good quality sleep, I will focus on being more grateful and positive, I am committing to 365 days of self development by listening to a daily podcast or reading, I will finish my online course in plant based nutrition, I will step outside of my comfort zone more often and challenge myself.

I know that sounds like a lot, but like I said I like to be thorough and specific, I hope you all enjoyed reading this post, I am SO excited to offer you a lot of exciting content for 2019. What are your new year’s goals? Share them below. Happy New Year!